Jin Ping Mei (The Plum in the Golden Vase or The Golden Lotus) has always been regarded as a pornographic book, and Ximen Qing has always been regarded as "lascivious." Although literary criticism has developed, everyone is no longer very sensitive to the obscenity described in the book, the general impression remains unchanged. In fact, in the trivial life described in Jin Ping Mei, Ximen Qing still shows the positive orientation in human relation aesthetics and social ethic values. His affection for his wife, concubines and associated women also has true temperament, which cannot be erased in one stroke. He worked hard for his family and career, which should not be ignored just because of his evil means of making a fortune. In a word, reading Ximen Qing in his emotion and family life helps us better understand the multifaceted nature of this typical image, and then understand the novel Jin Ping Mei.